United We Stand Divided We Fall!!!

It was such a pleasure whenever I visited my friends house in Dadar. It was a four floored house located in one of the best place in Mumbai. While visiting Hindu Colony or Parsee Colony in Dadar, you will never feel that you are in Mumbai. Two very clam and quite place in a city that never sleep. The house is just stone throwing away from Ruia and Poddar college. Only the first floor was rented while other floors were shared among the family members. All of them were in share trading business. It was a big family and a joint one. It was like big stage with unlimited activities. At present many of that family members moved out to the other houses as their requirement for spaces increased. It is happening every where in India. The joint family system and its charm is losing out. Gujarat, Haryana and  Punjab still are the flag bearer . My previous generation was very small, so when we grown up together we never felt as growing up in a joint family but whatever experience I have,  I still cherished as one of the positives thing in my life.

While in Singapore, I stayed with a Punjabi family, when whole family gathered at a point it was all masti (fun) time. Bengali families  too once preferred staying together but no more it is practiced, specially in urban Bengal.

In an extended family parents and their children's families often live under a single roof. This type of family often includes multiple generations in the family. In India, the family is a patriarchal society, with the sons' families often staying in the same house. In the joint family setup the workload is shared among the members, often unequally. The women are often housewives and cook for the entire family.

While living in Mumbai, I saw how suburbs were getting crowded and broke away family couldn’t afford a house, preferred to move away rather than adjusting with their folks and remained in under same roof. Life was never  very easy, every morning woman of the house before proceeding to their respective work had to rush with their wards to the nearby crush. On the way often children caught between double culture and failed to adopt either.

Living with senior members of the family from the time one was born, obliviously we grow up appreciating, admiring and loving them. Adjustment is one of the great human quality that can be learned from early core level.

Finance, environment and space would have been less concerned in the expense of little tolerance and altruistic.

Most of the cases, members who are financially more stable preferred to move away.

Don't have to go far, around my surrounding area, houses and personal lands are vanishing thick and fast. Every house that was once occupied by a joint family are already turned to a high-rise or now in the hand of promoter.

When a family broke away most of the such cases women were blamed, even the men always accepted the facts whole heartedly. The brothers and sisters, who once shared everything then found each others unbearable.

!!!Depression is the prize possession for the modern society in the expense of tolerance and adjustment.!!!